Hi! Jeannie, here. Hope you’re having a fabulous day (and spiritual journey!) 🙂
If you found this site, chances are you are looking to make some sort of change in your life. You’ve felt something is lacking and you want to fix it. Or you feel lost and/or confused and want to figure out why. Life is a magnificent journey, but that journey can sometimes feel a little less than magnificent. Here are my personal tips for weathering the peaks and valleys of turning over a new spiritual leaf.
#1 Start small – i.e. take baby steps
When I first watched Rhonda Byrnes’ “The Secret” movie/documentary, I was overwhelmed by the possibility of actually changing my life for the better. I was emotional. I was excited. I was ready to take action. I wanted to get this Law of Attraction (LOA) thing working for me that second, so I could stop being fat, broke, and stuck in a job I didn’t like.
And while setting the intention to do so is a great first step, that’s a lot to take on all at once. Changing yourself on a spiritual level takes time – not because God/Universe/Source is dragging his/her/its/their cosmic feet, but because you are human. No matter how old you are, you have a lifetime’s worth of limiting beliefs, falsehoods, and conditioning in your brain. Overcoming these limits and conditioning is totally possible, but it’s not going to happen overnight.
So how long’s it gonna take, Jeannie?
That, again, depends completely on you. Let’s say you’ve made the decision to change and improve your life. Great! Now, start doing the little stuff first – like thinking of something to be grateful for. It may be something as small as getting the last fork at your favorite take out restaurant or something as essential as being thankful to be alive. Be grateful that you got to work this morning without getting into a car accident. Et cetera, et cetera. Below is a picture of my own personal gratitude rock. I place it by my bed so that when I get up in the morning and go to bed at night, I remember to be grateful for something.
Another way to start your journey is to spend time in quiet. It could be going for a walk in nature. It could be going for a drive without the radio or your phone on. It could simply be sitting in your house with the television, radio, computer, phone, etc. turned off. Make yourself do this for at least five to ten minutes.
How does that feel?
How does it feel to be in quiet with no sound but nature or clocks ticking around you? Do you feel a bit uneasy? Are you comfortable? Do you feel bored, angry, fearful? Any or all of those reactions are totally normal. There is no right or wrong way to start a spiritual journey. What I advise is to accept whatever feelings you have as okay. You’ve been a human on this planet for quite a while now. Most likely you’ve been plugged into all the amazing technology that exists, especially your smart phone or tablet or computer. Or for you, maybe it’s your TV. But think about what you felt when you pulled yourself away from that technology. At first you may feel bored or anxious or some other “negative” emotion, but eventually, you’ll realize that being just with yourself is relaxing.
Try to increase this quiet time daily. Yes, there are kids and jobs and spouses and so on. Take the time anyway. Plan it. Talk to your family if you need to. This is you time. This is important. Plan to take at least a few minutes for yourself every single day. This alone will get your journey started.
You may feel the need to do something, and that’s also normal. Try closing your eyes and focusing on your breath as it flows in and out of your body. Count to four as you take a deep breath, and then count to four again as you exhale. Over time you should notice a reduction in stress and tension. Or maybe you like to write (I’m a writer, too, after all). Try writing out your thoughts on a piece of paper or journal. Don’t direct what you’re writing at all, just scribble down whatever floats into your head. After a few minutes, look at what you wrote or drew. Hopefully one or the other of these will help you relax.
The more you relax, the more you open up to the spiritual side of yourself. Keep doing it!
#2. Don’t let a bad moment/day/week stop you.
Now that you’ve begun your journey, you may expect that you’ll quit having bad days. I wish I could tell you that were true. It’s not, but your journey will help you to keep that bad moment/day/week in perspective. So that big pickup truck cut you off and you flipped him the bird. Now you feel guilty.
Oh my God, I’m trying to be more enlightened, and I flipped that guy off!
Relax. You’re still human. You’re always going to be human while in this life. It’s okay. There’s nothing that’s unforgivable. Give yourself a break, Jake! We all have our moments – I know I do. The difference comes in your awareness of your reaction. Maybe you flipped someone off or said a four letter word (I still say such words all the time, by the way, and I know it’s not really affecting my spiritual journey). The actions you take and the words you say are your way of expressing yourself. If you feel guilty, think about why you feel guilty.
Is it because you were taught that cussing is forbidden or bad? Or that giving someone the finger is?
Is it because people have told you only bad people do such things?
Is it because you lost your temper?
Think of the reason why and examine it. That examination will give you some answers about how you’ve been living your life up till now and what you may or may not wish to change. Examination is good for the soul, you know. 😉
Or maybe you had a terrible day at work. It was so bad you were tempted to just storm out and never go back. What was it about the situation that was so awful? Is it a person you were dealing with? A situation? Does being in that job make you feel demoralized? Do you do something you don’t enjoy? Is there a way to make it more joyful or at least tolerable? Or do you need to look for another job? Maybe you’ve been looking for another job but nothing you want is coming up.
Look at all of that. Do you have a belief that work isn’t supposed to be fun? Maybe you were taught that the only way to ever be a success in life, in your career, and with money is to work super hard. That’s not actually true, so think about what you believe and why you believe it. When you identify the beliefs that aren’t serving you, you can work on changing those beliefs to something more productive.
#3 Try not to judge your reactions too harshly.
Remember that angry retort and bird flipping incident from #2? Don’t beat yourself up over it. How many times in a day do we make a mistake and destroy ourselves over it? You drop something and break it and call yourself a stupid idiot. Or you forget your keys/wallet/phone and want to kick yourself. Part of this journey – a very essential part – is learning how to love yourself.
But I do love myself!
Do you? Do you really?
Do you call yourself horrible names when you mess up? Do you put up with stuff from people – even people you love – because you feel like you don’t have a right to stand up for yourself? Are you trying to make up for something you did wrong? Are you staying in a relationship/job/situation that makes you unhappy because you don’t feel worthy of leaving? Or maybe you’re scared. Fear can be another way that unworthiness wheedles itself into our lives.
Remember this: you ARE worthy. You are made of love and light. You deserve all good things no matter what your past might be. You are a spiritual being made of pure, gorgeous energy.
Part of going on a spiritual journey is forgiving yourself. Only once you forgive yourself and let yourself off the hook, can you truly begin to love yourself in the real sense of the word.
Look into a mirror. Look yourself right in the eye and say, “I love you.” Now try it again using your name. For example, “I love you, Jeannie.” Don’t break eye contact. Did you manage to do it? Was it difficult? If it was, then you probably have some stuff you need look at. Forgive yourself. Remember that you are divine and a co-creator of your own life.
Once you forgive and love yourself fully, the world will open up to you. It has for me, and I felt super weird the first time I looked in the mirror and said that.
#4 The only spiritual way out is sometimes through.
Let’s say you’ve started the process of forgiving and loving yourself. And it’s rough. Really rough. Maybe you’re having emotions pop up that scare the holy living bejesus out of you. Maybe as soon as these emotions pop up, you push them away because they’re so frightening.
However, the only way to get those feelings to go away is to experience them. Let yourself feel them. I know it can be scary and may make you so mad you think you might hit something, but do it anyway. I suggest following the very wise LOA teacher Ryan Biddulph’s advice and have some tissues and a pillow standing by. Or go out into the middle of nowhere so you can sob and scream without anyone else around.
The sooner you face your demons, the sooner you can release their hold on you. You will have to do this more than once – just so you know. You’re human and have pent up things that you may not even realize. A new situation may trigger something you didn’t know was there. That’s okay. Once you do it, it’ll get easier – especially when you see how much better you feel afterward. It may take a little while to feel the relief, but it will come.
I can tell you this from experience. Go through the pain, the sadness, the anger and release it. Let it go. Breathe deep. It’ll be okay.
#5 Enjoy your spiritual journey!
Last but certainly not least is to enjoy every step along the way.
But you just said I’ve gotta go through all this crap, Jeannie! How am I supposed to enjoy this?!?
Hey, I’m not saying you won’t have some difficult times. I’m not promising a bed of roses, here. But is your life a bed of roses now? Is everything in your life going the way you want it to? I sincerely doubt it, if you’ve read this far.
This is a journey of change on a fundamental level. And it takes courage, true. But what it takes the most of is adjusting your perspective. You know that feeling of looking forward to something so much that you feel nothing but elation? Or maybe you know what it feels like to fall in love. I have a secret for you, one shared by another of my beloved teachers, Kelli Cooper (Ryan’s wife). Wanna know the secret?
Happiness is a choice.
You can feel happy at any time. Think about it. Whoever you are, wherever you are, you can choose to focus on something that makes you happy. There are beautiful things even in the worst possible circumstances – which I personally believe is God/Universe/Source showing us support. Let me give you a few examples:
- You’re stuck in traffic, so you choose to look up at the gorgeous cloud formations and smile.
- You work with the public and a customer/client just griped you out big time. You choose to focus on the person who came after them and complimented you on something. Maybe they even empathized – “I don’t know why that lady in front of me was acting like such an old biddy!” That’s love, baby! Recognize it as such.
- You came down sick and feel disgusting, but Netflix just got one of your favorite shows so you can binge watch it all day long now.
- You’ve been annoyed with your significant other about something recently but then you remember how sweet he/she’s been in the past – maybe they brought you dinner when you were tired or they made you laugh when you were down in the dumps. Feel better?
One of the LOA’s basic precepts is what you focus on expands. So if you focus on things that you enjoy, those things get drawn to you like a magnet – that’s the law! So do every possible thing you can think of that makes your day happier. Whether it’s saying thank you to God for every small thing that happens throughout the day or turning away from ugly things to concentrate on the beautiful. You can do it.
Try to go an entire day focusing on whatever might be better. It doesn’t have to be the most awesome thing ever, just bring your attention to something that doesn’t annoy or upset you. When all else fails, take three deep breaths. Remember the key word in the phrase “spiritual journey” is journey. Journeys happen bit by bit.
You will begin to see a difference. The differences may be small at first, but notice them. Be thankful for them. And keep looking for them.
Every chance you can, make the choice to do fun things. Whatever things you enjoy, do them as often as possible. Make an effort to seek out those pleasures because the better you feel, the more good things you’ll attract. And the more good things you attract, the easier your spiritual journey will be.
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Thanks so much for reading! Did any of this help you? I’d love you to share in the comments below. Or if you have a question you don’t want to put in the comments, contact me. 🙂