Be kind. Especially to yourself.
Most of us are taught from a young age to be kind.
We’re taught not to stare at someone who may look a little different, whether from a disability or an injury.
We’re taught that it’s important to temper our words with consideration rather than just blurting something out – even if that something might be true.
We’re taught to avoid being rude by always being polite. The speak kind words to anyone we meet.
I know I was. I was a little girl raised in the South. And there girls are raised to be sweet, kind and gentle.
Now I’m not going to go into how girls are raised in the southern United States or how girls are raised differently than boys in general.
But what I am going to talk about is how being kind is so helpful and really essential to your spiritual journey.
When we start learning to see others not as that jerk who was rude to me but as a spiritual being in human form, our entire perspective changes.
I’m not excusing their negative or hurtful behavior, though. They are still responsible for how they conduct themselves.
If you’re listening to this podcast, chances are you know who and what you really are. You understand the truth about your existence on this planet.
You realize you are a beautiful and eternal spiritual being inhabiting a human body. That you have come here to learn, gain greater understanding, and help others and yourself in some way.
People who do not know this information are at a distinct disadvantage. They don’t know the truth. So when they encounter any negativity, they’re far more likely to react to it in a negative manner.
Like if someone bumps into that person, maybe they push back or yell at whoever collided with them. These things tend to escalate in crazy ways. Especially if we don’t know how to keep our reactions and emotions in check.
So am I saying to tolerate rude or even violent behavior? Never!
But it is important to remember that some people are lost. Some people are miserable and don’t know why.
And it’s important to forgive these people. Not for their sakes but for your own.
Forgiving others – even if that means distancing yourself from them or even never seeing them again – is one of the best ways to be kind. Not to them, but to yourself.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season that we forget to be kind. Especially to ourselves.
We think of all the stuff we have to do. We focus on the heavier traffic or being around family we don’t get along with. We think of the kids being home from school so we’ll have less freedom or time to do what we need to do.
This is of course, the negative way of looking at the holidays.
Can we focus differently?
How about seeing the stuff you need to do as a fun adventure? Get into the spirit of things and have fun with it.
Recently, we had an ugly or crazy Christmas sweater contest at work. It made us all take time to dress up and be silly. It lightened the day so much.
For those of you who may not usually follow me, I work in retail management. This is an insane time of year typically. More stress. More hours. More demands.
But that day it was a joy to come to work and see what everyone was wearing. It was fun for the sake of fun. And it was awesome.
If traffic is heavier than usual, make sure you leave a little earlier. Have something fun or peaceful to listen to in the car. I personally listen to personal development podcasts. ?
If the kids are getting underfoot, plan some activities that include them. The memories we create around this time of year can be some of our favorites when we look back. So make the time to create those memories this year.
If you’re lonely or upset, try getting more involved. There are literally thousands of ways to help others this time of year. There are activities in every community and support systems if you’re really struggling to cope.
Seek those out. The most important person you need to be kind to is yourself.
Spend some time – even if it’s only ten minutes – doing something to center yourself.
- Listen to soothing music or sounds.
- Go sit in the sunshine.
- Walk somewhere beautiful.
- Do something crafty.
- Go shopping just for yourself.
- Soak in a tub with some bath salts or take a bubble bath.
- Take a long hot shower.
- Read for a little while.
- Drive around looking at Christmas lights.
And if something goes wrong this Christmas – a package didn’t arrive on time or dinner got burned – just take a deep breath and let it go. Forgive whatever happened and whoever may be responsible.
Especially if that someone responsible was you.
This is the season of love, peace and perpetual hope. Of joy and prosperity. Of giving.
So give and be kind.
Give yourself the gift of kindness. Love yourself and allow yourself to feel peaceful, joyful, optimistic and full of hope.
‘Tis the season, after all.
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I wish you the merriest of Christmases and the happiest of whatever holiday you celebrate.
May 2018 be your best year so far!