Profanity: Using it to Let Things Go
Please be advised: this episode will contain a LOT of profanity. While I always put an explicit rating on this podcast, I wanted to provide a little extra warning this time around. If you don’t like profanity, find it offensive, or have children listening, you may just want to skip this one. Thanks!
Today’s podcast is part lesson and part book/journal review.
I was hanging out at my local Barnes and Noble – one of my favorite places – and just happened to glimpse the cover of this awesome journal entitled, Zen as Fuck: A Journal for Practicing the Mindful Art of Not Giving a Shit.
That definitely got my attention.
For one thing, the cover is quite beautiful – I’ll put a picture in the notes.
For another, I found the title hilarious, like uproariously funny.
I immediately reached out and grabbed it, flipped through it, then bought it.
And because it’s just as incredible as I thought it would be, I decided to share it.
Please let me explain about the profanity issue…
While I would never set out to intentionally offend anybody, in my personal life I have a bit of a potty mouth.
I’m not hateful about it, I just like being real.
I even did a podcast on being real and authentic on my old Writing in Your Jammies podcast which I’ll link to in the show notes.
If we’re not being who we authentically are, then we’re not in alignment with our dreams.
If we’re too busy trying to be what we think others want us to be, we’re not being true to ourselves, and that’ll keep our dreams from ever reaching us.
And in the interest of keeping things real, I say, “Fuck that!”
I also find the use of profanity hilarious. (That’s probably why I love Deadpool so much!)
The author of this journal is a lady named Monica Sweeney, and I’ll link to her in the show notes, too.
Her particular brand of humor really struck home with me, and I hope you find it fun, as well.
One of the main things I love about this journal is the playfulness of it.
The author has a place for you to claim the journal as yours by putting, “These HAPPY-ASS VIBES belong to:” Then the very next page says, “Today is YOUR fucking day!”
And that’s all before the introduction!
An important part of any spiritual journey is letting go of the things that cause us pain, and her irreverent tone is perfect for this.
Life is supposed to be fun.
Our human existence here is supposed to be fun.
We all take everything too damn seriously.
If we could relax and enjoy life more, we probably wouldn’t see as much of the negativity that’s currently rampaging across our planet.
What we focus on expands, remember?
And that certainly includes fun.
And before I get deeper into the journal, let me clarify the part of the title where she talks about not giving a shit.
I won’t put words in the author’s mouth, but I’m pretty sure she doesn’t mean not giving a shit in a derogatory way.
I believe she’s just referring to the things that hold us back.
It’s not that she’s saying to not give a shit about tragedies that happen or not to show support and sympathy to someone going through a hard time.
I believe she’s saying to quit giving a shit about what others may say or think about you and your dreams.
I mean, I was a teenage girl once.
I remember acting petty and holier than thou.
Even more often, I was the target of others with this behavior.
And back then, I didn’t have enough confidence or wherewithal to stand up for myself.
I was awkward and shy doormat, often preoccupied by what I was afraid others thought of me.
Show of hands… Anyone else resonate with that?
That’s why not giving a shit is such a beautiful thing when it comes to other people’s opinions.
Frankly, it doesn’t MATTER what they think.
You be you.
You focus on you.
You improve yourself and go after your dreams with impunity.
And everyone else can just focus on themselves.
If they do focus on you, it’s probably because they feel a huge amount of dissatisfaction or unhappiness or jealousy or lack of good things in their own lives.
And they can fix that, just like you can fix that.
But they’ll need to focus exclusively on themselves – on bettering themselves – to do it.
These are people commonly referred to as haters or even trolls.
Haters have nothing positive to say about anyone because they’re so busy gossiping and criticizing others.
And trolls… Jeez.
Trolls are all about trying to cause problems and make others feel bad.
Likely because they’re so miserable themselves.
But being miserable is a choice just like being happy is a choice.
I’d like to encourage you to choose happiness.
And part of that is not giving a shit what haters and trolls think.
It’s also about not giving a shit about what those you actually love think either.
Your loved one may have the best intentions in the world when she tells you not to pursue writing because there’s no money in it, but that doesn’t mean you should listen to her.
Only you know what brings you joy.
Only you know where to find your bliss.
And honestly, your joy and bliss are nobody else’s business.
Okay, let’s move on.
Let me give you a few journal quotes infused with profanity from people you might recognize:
“When you wake up to opportunity’s door – don’t knock on it. Kick that bitch in, smile and introduce yourself.” Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson
“You wanna fly, you got to give the shit up that weighs you down.” Song of Solomon, Toni Morrison
“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.” Maya Angelou
“I am a woman with thoughts and questions and shit to say. I say if I’m beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story – I will.” Amy Schumer
Successful people, right? Maybe we can learn from their examples.
Author Monica Sweeney shares many nuggets of wisdom in this journal, and I don’t want to spoil all her awesome uses of profanity – I personally think everyone who has resonated with this podcast so far should run out and get this spectacular thing – but I will share a few nuggets…
“Spread your strong and sturdy wings, and fucking soar.”
“Let yourself be sad, or even angry for a little bit. As you get further and further away from it, hold on to that one good thing from your dark, tempestuous cloud. Allow the skies to clear, and follow it to your goddamn rainbow.”
And last but not least, an ode to meditation: “Breathe in strength, breathe out bullshit.”
If you have some bullshit you’d like to breathe out, I now have an entire page of guided meditations over at my website Creative Empowerment Coach dot com.
Check ’em out if you’d like. I created that page for you to enjoy.
To wrap this up, I thoroughly enjoyed “Zen as Fuck.”
I laughed out loud in several places.
It’s so full of insightfulness and foul-mouthed inspiration.
There’s so much more (besides profanity) inside its pages than what I covered here, so go out and grab it like I did!
I give it my full recommendation.
I hope this podcast cheered you up if you were down.
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I want to give a shoutout to my two newest reviewers over there, brnjen11 and Lady Gal!
They both face me 5⭐s so that’s amazing –
Brnjen11 said: This podcast is just the pick me up I need on the way to or from work. Jeannie speaks from real life experiences and it’s good to know someone else is going through what so many of us are.
Lady Gal said: I loved the calming and soothing meditation; really good visualizations of removing the shadow and allowing the emotion to flow through me. I understand too well how emotions get stuck inside of me.
Thank you both so much! I feel honored to share with you and thrilled to get the feedback.
If you have your own feedback or any questions you’d like me to address on the podcast, please feel free to submit them in a review on iTunes or in the comment section of my website CreativeEmpowermentCoach.com