SPIRITUAL: WHAT IT IS & WHAT IT ISN’T
Nowadays, you hear the word “spiritual” bandied about more and more.
Spirituality and spiritualism is much more mainstream in the United States—and maybe even the world—than it used to be.
But what IS it?
And why do I not only consider myself to be spiritual, I even offer a Spiritual Empowerment Package as part of my coaching services?
When I Googled “being spiritual,” this lovely definition popped up:
Being a spiritual person is synonymous with being a person whose highest priority is to be loving to yourself and others. A spiritual person cares about people, animals and the planet. A spiritual person knows that we are all One, and consciously attempts to honor this Oneness. A spiritual person is a kind person.
I dearly love this definition!
I personally grew up in a Christian household who didn’t attend church.
The beliefs I was taught stemmed from the Bible, but my family would probably be called nondenominational.
Due to this, and the fact that I grew up in the Bible Belt, I went to several different churches off and on.
They were all different and similar.
But one thing that always annoyed me was that many churches claimed to be the only true church.
As if every other church was wrong.
I saw many things happen at church services that I didn’t like, specifically, the preacher pointing at children and yelling, “You will go to Hell if you don’t repent!”
Which frankly, I still think of as horrific, even traumatizing.
Still, I’d always known there was far more to life than what we can physically see, so I decided to attend a Christian college.
There, I witnessed a mixture of beliefs I agreed with and beliefs I didn’t.
I also learned about the Council of Nicaea for the first time.
This council of men decided which gospels written would be considered correct and holy and which ones would be ignored.
I learned a lot about biblical history at that time, and much of what I learned bothered me.
I’d always been taught that the Bible was the word of God.
But if it was cobbled together by a bunch of guys who put some things in and kept some things out, how could that be true?
How could any of us today possibly know the difference?
During this time I began attending my soon-to-be husband’s church.
We were married in that church, but still, I never fully agreed with all of their beliefs.
I wanted to believe and follow the truth, but with so much confusion, how could I tell what the truth even was?
Eventually, a couple years later, we stopped attending church altogether.
I’d always felt like I had to put on a facade anytime we went to church or were around other members of the congregation, and that never sat right with me.
Not to say there aren’t Christian churches or Christian people who are kind, good and loving people. The vast majority are or at least have good intentions. What I’ve recounted are simply my experiences and the choices I’ve made in my own relationship with God.
Fast forward twenty years.
When I watched the Secret movie about the law of attraction for the first time, I knew I was hearing truth.
I had goosebumps.
My spine was tingling.
I was even crying.
Finally, the truth about our spiritual nature was being revealed to me.
This felt real and true!
There was no we’re right and they’re wrong.
There was no us vs. them mentally.
The more I learned about the various spiritual principles, the more it rang true.
Being spiritual was all about love and being connected.
Being spiritual was all about tuning in to our inner emotional barometers so we can decide for ourselves what feels right and what doesn’t.
Being spiritual was about letting go of judgment, both of others and of ourselves.
There is no mean vicious God up in the sky somewhere ready to smite you the second you get one toe out of line.
Instead, there is this wonderful loving presence (whether you call it God, the Universe or something else) within you and surrounding you, supporting you in everything you do.
Being spiritual is a philosophy and a way of life.
To me, it’s the truth.
It’s guidance for this journey we call life.
What being spiritual isn’t is jumping on someone or criticizing them for their mistakes.
Can you be spiritual and still struggle with a vice?
Spirituality is all about loving yourself, and doing things that harm you—smoking, drinking yourself into oblivion, overeating—are not loving yourself.
But the difference is, you’re not judged for those screw ups.
None of us are perfect.
That’s the human condition.
We all came into these physical bodies to experience everything they have to offer, good and bad.
Spiritual people do practice love and kindness.
Spiritual people might also use words like shit and fuck, not to throw angrily at someone, but just in their everyday language.
For example, “You got a promotion? That’s fucking awesome, honey!”
Spiritual people feel free to express their true selves, whether that’s having tattoos and piercings all over or whether that’s something entirely different.
Being spiritual is about accepting yourself and everyone else for who you and they are.
It may seem woo woo to those looking from the outside in, but that’s okay.
Because once you begin to live authentically, what others think about you becomes less and less important.
And that is a beautiful thing.
Interested in being coached by me as you take your first steps along your own spiritual path?
We’ll discuss your goals, your needs and the results you’re looking to receive.
I can’t wait to talk to you!