Waiting Sucks! (And How to Survive it.)
Few of us are good at it.
To paraphrase Homer Simpson, “We want our buffalo, and we want it NOW!”
We want happiness, fulfillment, a sense of accomplishment, the love of our lives, success and prosperity.
And we don’t want to have to wait for it.
Many people get frustrated with this, which is understandable in our microwaveable, drive thru, rat race of a world.
And I have to agree that waiting can really suck.
We all have evidence of why it sucks.
That time we went to the ER with the flu because no appointments were available with our regular doctor, only to wait three hours feeling shitty crappy and get told to “Drink lots of fluids and get plenty of rest.”
That time you waited hours at the airport during the holidays for your delayed flight to end up being cancelled altogether.
But sometimes instant gratification can be our downfall.
Some of us don’t finish degrees because we’re tired of school or we’re tired of never having any money.
So we get a job thinking we’ll go back later.
Then twenty years later, we still don’t have that degree or our dream job and we sit back and wonder what happened.
We get tired of waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right and settle for the next person who shows us even a modicum of interest.
Because waiting sucks.
But you know what sucks more?
Especially when that unhappiness comes from the knowledge that we might’ve been happier if we’d been willing to be more patient.
If we’d been more willing to wait.
And I get it.
It’s so hard to wait!
Those big things in life: a happy love life, a great career or business, money, a house and car and two kids – those are things that are important to many of us.
And it’s super difficult waiting for them.
And yet, trying to force these things to happen tends in end in disaster.
This is where the next essential step comes in:
If you’ll trust God, the Universe, and your higher self to guide you, then you’ll know what action to take and when to take it.
And when you take it, it’ll feel right and good.
It’ll feel joyous and easy.
Because life was never meant to be hard.
Life was meant to be easy.
As long as you listen to your own inner guidance.
Now there will be times when things are occurring behind the scenes so to speak, when you won’t see anything happening on your end.
It’ll look like nothing is happening, but it is.
God and the Universe are working things out for you.
You just need to exercise some patience.
I recently discovered this fabulous podcast called Awaken Radio Podcast with Connie Chapman which is absolutely wonderful and I’ll link it in the show notes.
Connie calls this time of less activity and seeing fewer immediate results, “The Void.”
When you’re in the void, you won’t see things visibly occurring, but they are.
This is a perfect time not only for patience, but also for reflection and self-care.
Be quiet with yourself during this time of waiting.
- Go on walks in nature
- Say affirmations that feel good to you
- Create vision boards
- Do yoga
- Take naps
- Take a class you’ll enjoy
- Visualize your future
In other words, do whatever feels generally good to you – any or all of the above.
It’s important to know that what you’re wanting is on its way to you.
I’m now going to give you a couple of exercises to help.
Perfect You Visualization
I want you to imagine that you are in the future.
The thing or things you’ve been wishing and waiting for has already arrived.
I want you to imagine that you wake up in the morning and have every single thing you’ve ever dreamed of.
How does this feel?
Write down or think of five words that describe exactly how you feel right now.
After you’ve come up with your words, feel each emotion fully.
What I mean by this, is really examine how each of these emotions feel on every level possible.
Let’s say one of your emotions is relief because you have all the money you want and no longer have to worry about any kind of cash shortage.
How does relief feel to you?
For me, relief feels like a release or letting go of stress and negativity. It’s the sensation of going from heaviness to lightness.
Why does relief feel enjoyable?
Relief feels enjoyable to me because I personally associate relief with freedom. When I release any negativity, I become free to do what I really want to do without any worries dragging me down.
How does relief feel in your body?
For me, relief feels like a sigh or like taking a breath after holding it as long as I can. It also feels like an absence of pain after being in pain for a while. It’s the sensation of a tightness in my stomach relaxing.
Do this for all five of your emotions and imagine going through your perfect day feeling all of these emotions.
Now that you’ve felt all these emotions, imagine what you would do during this perfect day?
Are you spending time with your kids or your soulmate?
Are you happily running your business or enjoying your new promotion?
Are you traveling the world and seeing the sights you always dreamed of?
Visualize your day from start to finish, feeling every lovely emotion along the way.
Now, memorize that high and happy vibration, that wonderful feeling and recreate it every day.
Gratitude is one of the best ways to feel good, which brings what you want to you faster.
Every morning before you get out of bed, think of several things you’re grateful for.
As you go through your day do the same, especially if you become stressed or feel some other negative emotion.
Gratitude is the best and simplest way to feel better.
At night right before bed, run a dialogue in your head about several things you feel grateful for from that particular day.
FYI: It is impossible to feel negative emotion and gratitude at the same time.
So even though waiting does suck, if you trust the journey, you won’t have to wait forever.
Want more info on trust and waiting? Or on meditation?
Check out these resources:
- Create Your Empowered Self Podcast
- Other resources:
- Connie Chapman’s podcast
- Live Life Made to Order podcast #124: Law of Attraction: I’ve Pulled Back From Bad-Feeling Action but Nothing’s Happening
- How to Stop Worrying So You Can Start Smiling, an ebook by Ryan Biddulph
- Success Starts Long Before Anyone Else Notices